Happy 3 Year Anniversary to my beautiful wife… hopefully this gift to you will be something our future kids will enjoy and perhaps help other couples.
Who am I
My name is Mark Anthony. I am 30 years old. I am a Sr. Software Engineer and Lead at a Major US Financial Institution. I am the Youth Minister at my Parish. I am a life long Laker Fan. I am a Nintendo fanboy. I am a happy husband. But I am also a husband struggling to have kids.
Why did I start this?
Abby and I were having a conversation on our drive home from our last appointment with Dr. Stigen and it occurred to me… she (Abby) really needs to understand me more. I mean I know that this has been tough for her (taking several pills, receiving injections from me, and undergoing laparoscopic surgery), but at the same time I know she wants to know what is going on in my crazy mixed up head. This journey has been a roller coaster of emotions and experiences for us, something I do not want to forget. Then I got to thinking that I want more people to understand our situation and why we chose to start using the Creighton Model FertilityCare System and NaProTechnology. So I figured that a blog would be the best avenue to help others better understand us (so instead of people saying… “So when you going to have kids,” they will say “I am praying for you and Abby”) and that there are more options than the heavily promoted (and incredibly expensive) in vitro fertilization (IVF). Needless to say, I feel that men need to know about this and how this type of experience can help turn a marriage (regardless of what shape it is in) into a closer and more intimate one… in which the inclination to understand outweighs that of judgment and presumptions. In short… I think FertilityCare and NaPro are good … strike that…GREAT for a marriage. Whether you are struggling to have children or think you have too many (some of my friends say they are in this category… though I beg to differ)… NaPro has something to offer you and your wife.
DISCLAIMER: I am not an expert.. nor do I claim to be an expert on NaProTechnology. I am merely sharing what I have learned from this experience… however I do hope in the near future to educate myself even more (whether that’s studying Theology of the Body, regular Biology, or becoming a Creighton Model Practitioner). Oh yeah.. and my wife has no idea that I am doing this, though I will share this with her soon.
ProLife & Catholic Approved! Actually when Abby and I got married in Feb 2009, we could not wait to have kids, but after a year of “trying”… we suspected something might be wrong. We really didn’t know what to do. A friend of ours, Marianne, was giving a talk on the Creighton Model for a Women’s Health seminar sponsored by the Young Adult Ministry at Holy Family. One of the functions of Creighton Model is to achieve or avoid pregnancy according to the woman’s fertility cycle – known as natural family planning (NFP). We really did want to attend, but we had our yearly Youth Ministry Retreat that same weekend. But a few months later… April 4, 2010 to be exact… we setup a meeting with her to talk about this NFP stuff. Now you may ask… “Hey didn’t you learn about NFP at your Engagement Encounter Retreat?” Well the answer is yes and no… the only thing I knew about NFP is that it involved planning. So I guess you can say it’s more No than Yes.
It took us a while to work up the courage to even email her because I think we were scared to find out that something would be wrong. I mean, who wants to know that you aren’t exactly RIGHT and that something was WRONG with you? I really did not want to find out that the woman I married and loved could not bear children. I mean… I was the only son in my family…. I HAD to carry out the family name. How was I ever going to run around with Mark Anthony Jr? I think this is something all men can relate to. It was something that ate me up inside, until we met with Marianne. And if I could use one word to describe Marianne, it would be Hope… and Trust… ok that’s two words… but she’s definitely worth it 🙂
But actually to understand why we chose NaPro… you have to understand it. So hopefully I do it justice.
Thus ends my first post. I have several posts planned… and I hope to share it with everyone because I believe I am not the only one in this boat.